One of my kids causes me more stress than all the others combined. It is not the newborn baby who constantly needs to be fed or held or just paid attention to. Nope, that girl is a piece of cake. It's the 4 year old who constantly needs to be the one who flushes the toilet, no matter who just used it, or open and close every door, especially the garage door, and win everything even when there isn't a competition, and when any of these things don't go his way tears happen and flailing on the ground is common place. I love him so much, but he makes life so hard sometimes. This boy is turning my hair gray and driving me to drink (caffeine, not alcohol)! Some days its a nightmare trying to keep up with all his demands, or just plain exhausting trying to ignore them. I am at my wits end here people. Seriously. What do I do with a kid like this. I swear we've tried everything for the past two or so years to get past his "terrible two's" phase, but nothing is working.
Friday, July 8, 2011
Dexter - the bringer of blessings
I sent him away. I'm not joking. He went home with Grandma Marde on Tuesday. He's staying with her until we meet up at Bear Lake for a family reunion. I think she was terrified to take him, having witnessed his meltdowns on multiple occasions, but she reluctantly agreed (after much begging by Scott and myself). She says he's been a perfect angel so far! I think he is experiencing what it feels like to not be in constant competition with someone (even if that someone is unwilling to compete) and will realize that that is an exhausting way to live. Maybe he will come home and be broken of his toilet flushing habit, or maybe the temper tantrums will ease up, just a little. Maybe he will miss us enough to realize he doesn't need to fight with everyone all the time. Really, any changes for the better are welcome!
They say that with trials come blessings. Well, I think Dexter is getting us more than our fair share. Thanks Grandma Marde for taking him against your better judgment and giving me a break.
Dear Dexter,
I love you so much! I'm glad you are having so much fun with Grandma. The house is too quiet without you, and Corbin says it feels funny when you're not around. We miss you, not the tantrums, but you. I hope you are still remembering to be good. We can't wait to see you at Bear Lake. Come happy! Oh yeah, and congratulations on your C-shaped poop! That's quite an accomplishment. Love you!
Love,
Mom
Posted by Rochelle Brunson at 6:47 AM
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4 comments:
Thank heavens for Grandma's!!!!! Bless you Marde. I bet Dex will be an angel for her. Enjoy the peace.
Chelle , we had that problem also,it never went away,It's hard!!All you can do is love him and hope for the best...Good Luck! Marde is a super grandma,I hope things go okay for her. When are you going to Bear Lake?
Oh Chelle... your two boys are the perfect mix of my Braxton. Corbin with his love of learning ( I swear sometimes it's like Brax learns by osmosis ), and Dex with his competition and such. EVERYTHING has to be Braxton's way and it is emotionally and sometimes physically exhausting. We don't so much have flailing tantrums but lots of crying:( There are days when I don't know how much more I can take. At the same time I couldn't live without his sweet spirit. How can these two entities live in the same body? I guess you just have to take the good with bad and focus on their positives. There is still hope for you. They say a child's personality is set by six. Oh I'm gonna have a fun time in his teen years!!!
4 year olds are the hardest!!! Maddie was a perfect angel when my mom was here, but as soon as she left she reverted to her non potty trained ways. I think it is hard for them to get enough attention, but really there is only so much we can do. Good luck!
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